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I wrote this post about OnlyFans on Reddit. Let me know what..
🕑 Added 2021-09-05 00:00:04 +0000 UTC I wrote this post about OnlyFans on Reddit. Let me know what you think. Since I am getting the hang of this whole platform more and more, I will be WAY more responsive with messages and inquiries. Be patient with me plz, I only started mid July and never did anything even remotely similar to this so I’m still a newbie. Feel free to philosophize with me! 💕🥰 — I wrote this to better educate others on the unique market OF caters to and that it’s more than just “sex sells”. It can also be seen as a method that fulfills a diverse range of emotional needs that plague men in an increasingly alienated technologically advanced modern society. Men experience greater feelings of isolation and loneliness than women, they feel they have less emotional resources to rely on in their times of need. Maybe OF satisfies this in some way? 🌟 Porn is free, there’s plenty of it on the web, so why should anyone subscribe to a person’s onlyfans? There’s one core feature of onlyfans that I feel must be emphasized for the phenomenon to be properly understood — its parasocial nature. For a person’s content to be worth subscribing to, they must provide to its user base a variety of things: 1) An experience that porn cannot provide 2) An experience that isn’t easily attainable for free in the real world. 3) A highly marketable product that is both rare and high in scarcity value. 4) An experience that is overall attractive to its consumers and consistently dispenses high quality content on a regular basis while maintaining its affordability (its content doesn’t deprecate in quality and regularity among an increasing influx in subscribers). 5) An experience that does not leave the consumer feeling exploited in any way whether it be financially or emotionally. 🌟 What are most men’s qualms with OnlyFans , what causes them to feel weird about subscribing to a woman’s content? Here are some of the reasons given by different men: 1) Porn is free, why should I pay for someone’s nudes? 2) They don’t want to objectify the woman in a purely sexual way. 3) It makes them feel weird to pay for porn. 4) They’re against OF because they feel it is inherently exploitative toward men and gives women a free reign advantage to make massive amounts of low-effort income. 5) It’s not genuine. They want to know the “real me” on a personal level. They don’t want to see themselves as a customer and actually “get to know me”. 🌟 To respond to these concerns directly one by one: 1) I don’t see myself as a sex worker or someone who is simply providing porn / nudes on her OF. I do view myself as providing a service though, but I wouldn’t say it’s primarily sexual in nature. I do try to provide men an outlet for their sexual desires, but also their intellectual and emotional ones. My inbox is always available to my subscribers for deep philosophical conversations or simply emotional expression to a non-judgmental caring listener. 2) I feel equally as objectified for my personality and intellect as I do for my physical appearance. I allow myself to be objectified in these ways and am not made uncomfortable by this fact. 3) It’s not weird because I don’t view the transaction as men paying for porn but for an “experience”, or even them providing a monthly donation as a friend who cares for my well-being. I try to reduce feelings of guilt by demonstrating that I do care for my subscriber base as friends and will gladly m e e t up as friends for coffee if the stars align. I never feel “f o r c e d” or pressured to respond to messages or talk to people, I do it because I want to and deeply enjoy these stimulating discussions. 4) This take is just anti-sex work and anti-women, plain and simple. Women are only utilizing the market that men created and continue to sustain. It’s men who create this increased demand for sexual labor and it’s women who supply the product. What harm are women contributing by having a safe method of earning independent income? 5) What type of women make an OF account? Is there a distinct kind of “OF girl” that can easily be differentiated from what you’d call a “normal girl”? No, there isn’t. Women have many different reasons for making an OF account and are led toward this path by an unique array of individual circumstances, so no real generalizations can be made about common features that OF content creators supposedly share. OF feels less genuine to certain men because they’re paying for a service. They feel their relationship with me is commodified and that this prevents them from getting to know the “real me”. Let me be the first to tell you that there is no such thing as an Authentic self. I feel everyone plays a specific role catered to various situations and contexts. I do sometimes see “core features” of who I believe myself to be that have remained consistent over a long period of time but I still wouldn’t go as far as call that “authentically who I am” as a person. The individual you message over OF is as authentically “me” as when you m e e t me from any other setting whether it be in real life or from a basic dating app. 🌟 I can’t say why other women make an OF, all I can do is speak for myself and why I made one. My initial reasons was due to financial struggle, I couldn’t find work and wanted to ease the burden off my aging parents who are both 70 years old. This platform is not making me rich but it is serving the important function of decreasing the amount of money I ask for from my parents which has been incredibly helpful. As I continued to make content, I realized I was discovering different aspects of my religiously repressed sexuality on the way (I was having a sort of “sexual awakening” — I’m a late bloomer, I thought I was asexual for a majority of my life) and that I actually enjoyed doing this. OF gives me plenty of opportunity to be creative in my room decorations, developing ideas for photo or video shoots, collaboration with other content creators, and the erotic stories I write. 🌟 As I previously stated, I believe it’s important to be responsive via messages and partake in these types of discussions because that is a part of what they are paying for when they subscribe to my OF. They aren’t just paying for Lewds, but a relationship in a way, a friendship if you will. I don’t see the transactional nature of OF as devaluing these friendships as any less genuine, it actually enhances its value in my eyes because I view subscribers as personally helping support me in my own time of need. I will write more on the topic when something comes to mind, feel free to ask me questions regarding the points I’ve presented here in the comment section below and I will do my best to explain the underlying reasoning and logic behind them.
