PLEASE READ!! Back attack!! π But really I killed it on my b..
🕑 Added 2021-01-21 00:41:25 +0000 UTC
PLEASE READ!! Back attack!! π But really I killed it on my back workout πͺπ½ I'm loving my results! Quick story. So I had plateaued for awhile trying to lean up and it began to frustrate me, for months! My husband wants to lean up, he does it. He wants to get bigger, he does it, just like that. A few weeks back he saw my frustration and broke it to me plain n simple. He told me my training intensity was lacking. My cardio needed increasing, big time, and lastly, my diet had gotten worse over some time now. Not as a whole, but I was snacking on sweets and chips throughout the day, not thinking they mattered. Well put all that together over a 24hr period and it adds up. My husband is extremely disciplined and can go weeks, months, even years without breaking his discipline, I however am more human and tend to slack after awhile, even just a little. Two things to take from this. One, even as "hard" as we may think we're pushing, and moving forward in whatever venture in life...could be fitness, could be with work, or could be in a relationship, we tend to "get comfortable" and forget to constantly raise the bar. You don't grow in your comfort zone. You become stagnant. Your physique, finances, love life, come to a halt and stop growing and stop flourishing. Two, has hard as it may be to either give, or take criticism, it's necessary to continue to advance. I'm a very blunt, don't sugar coat shit person. My husband, even worse. He knows I hate criticism tho, even from him. When he told me I had basically gotten lazy and slightly complacent in my fitness levels it irritated the fuck outta me. I was legitimately mad, but why...because I knew he was right. Sometimes as a wife or husband we fear to tell our significant other what is wrong. We fear hurting their feelings or creating an argument, but in reality if both can communicate and listen to each other than small problems can be fixed before they become something bigger. Next month we hit 18 yrs together, and of course we have our ups and downs, but communication is key in helping each other out. In the past month or so I've shed about 8lbs, and harden my muscle back up thanks to some honest constructive criticism. Honesty is the best policy and I'm ecstatic about finally seeing results once again. I'm back to pushing hard. Cardio 6 days a week, lifting 5 days, and cut out about 80% of my snacking. I'm not old, I'll be 36 in June, but one thing he told me was things will physically get tougher as I age. "You aren't in your 20's anymore! You're headed to 40! You can't act like a 20 yr old snacking all day and barely doing cardio, it doesn't work like that." he told me. As much as I was mad at him for a few days, I got over it and it made me love him that much more. For telling me the truth, not sugar coating what was wrong and giving me that push I didn't realize I needed. A relationship is a team effort. Usually 50/50, but when one is struggling and only giving 20 or 30%, the other takes up that 70 or 80%. We need to support and motivate each other, not coddle or enable bad habits or struggles. Tell it how it is, straight up, not rudely or demeaning, but in a way they understand and help them on their journey π So...that's my little story. I'm not all about ass n pussy, and when I can give some helpful hints, insight or inspiration I will.
