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Lili Martinez

I think Morgan read the story on Spotify but didn't get into their takes or comments or the update because I remember the story as well

Lissa Eckley

As someone with bpd milas comment about lily can’t be too mentally ill if her issues only seem to relate to op and she is successful otherwise really rubbed me the wrong way and feels quite ignorant honestly one of the big things with bpd is that a lot of it is about your relationships and feelings it isn’t always necessarily something that affects your professional life or ability to otherwise take care of yourself (obviously everyone’s situation is different) so to imply that she is not as mentally unwell as she is because it seems to only relate to her relationship with op is really lacking awareness and understanding of what bpd is

Alex

I feel bad to say this but this is typical BPD behaviour. These manipulative tactics track and Im afraid they might not stop. It could also escalate into her using the legal system/making up stories to get back at him. Unfortunately, and I don't wanna generalize but it's very common (and very well documented in the literature) for borderline/hystrionic/ cluster B personality disorders to go that far to get their way

Alyssa Ferry

I understand Mila's upset. I feel like a compromise could be a post with just a note screenshot where Mila let's people know how the words of the ex hurt her. Something like "Husband and I are in love and are so excited about our wedding and years and years of a happy marriage ahead of us. Our pasts are our past and we are committed to each other, now, in the present, and in the future. Nothing will break that bond, we're too strong to lett that happen."

Kim F

I love the sentiment where you said sometimes just need 10 cookies a day 🤣🤣 cookies are my favorite and I STRUGGLE with not going overboard lol

Brea

Did this get posted on Spotify as well? I’ve definitely heard this but I’ve my first time on Patreon

King Killings

this is fake who get famed populartity

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Chloe Bennett

As someone who has BPD, I really feel for Lily. BPD is a disorder that’s mostly comes from childhood abandonment, so while what she did wasn’t right.. I can understand what triggered her to have an episode like that. I believe she will be embarrassed enough once she takes some time after having that episode, and being blasted on the internet would make things so much worse for her, and could possibly lead to far worse things like self harm. Not only that, but the girlfriend trying to make others cut Lily off would only trigger Lily’s abandonment issues even more.. which would contribute to her episodes.

Megan Miller

I thought the same thing about the "we want our friends to be aware" point. When I wanna make sure my friends know something, it's a text. Putting it on social media also means that people from high school, my old relatives, my colleagues, random people from church, the dude I worked with at a fast food job, etc are gonna know lol and they don't need or want to know that drama.

Megan Miller

Lily is a lawyer who made a drastic change to find herself and was later diagnosed with BPD. Are we sure she isn't Rebecca Bunch?

Aislinn Finn

No because why are those cookies so good!! They don’t look like much but it’s deceiving I swear

Miranda Connor

Not Justin also having friendship trauma from the shocking gum

Sara Keese

I have experienced similar things and honestly I wouldn’t have even responded. I would have reached out to mutuals but in my experience when this happens, any type of engagement is validation that the initial email was warranted to the sender and things get more intense. Especially if there is an event that is the trigger for them. Security is a must.

Maximum S Labrador

Mila is nit a good person if she wants to put something that vulnerable from sombody who she knows is unwell on social media like that..... red flag.

Two Hot Takes

Okay that;s wild because you literally feel the butter melt on your tongue hahah they are straight sticks of butter. iPhone camera doing them dirty lol

Holly Bosley

Those cookies low key look so dry! lol

Kelly McKinley

Oh yeah, that’s Vons over by us, same parent company! They always have good bakery items!

Alice Edepil

My ex also has BPD. I recently moved from my home country and only a week or two after I moved, I got both an email and a letter, meaning my ex must have been keeping tabs on me even though I blocked him on all social media I have. The spiraling, desperate, longwinded letters seem to be a common thing among those with BPD, however, OP should not let his new partner react in such a way, and post the letter on social media. The ex wife wants attention, that's why she wrote the letter to begin with. The only way forward is no contact, both direct contact and indirect contact (aka posting personal letters on socials). Just my two cents.

Two Hot Takes

omg we got them from pavilions a grocery place by our house. I'm obsessed

Kevin Cheney

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Eden Standing

Mila sharing that stuff shows a massive amount of immaturity and insecurity. If she is actually confident in her relationship with OP she wouldn't need to amass an army against Lily. There's more to worry about than just a wedding... It can endanger Lily's life. Lily isn't right, but she isn't some evil plotting mistress and OP made it clear he would cut ties. OP should rethink wedding, because if he ever makes a mistake ye can expect Mila to tell everyone and stir the pot.

booopsboops

I don’t see any world where sharing that email is justified. Even sharing it to a friend one on one if they really want to understand what happened and why they can’t invite Lily to functions anymore would be questionable to me. Just is cruel and unnecessary to share it on social media

Sabina Barrolaza

As someone with BPD I could totally understand how this could come out of a spiral. I’ve never done anything like this but I could see how triggers and feelings of abandonment could lead to this. If someone shared my crazy writings on social media it would be very heartbreaking.

Victoria Jean

Yea go Kelly! I was just going to add on this this is a byproduct of her BPD. It's a manic episode that she probably doesn't even know she's going thru

Kelly McKinley

Commenting during the initial reading: Lily is mentally unwell. This email may be utilized to the highest good by sending it to her therapist, if known. To go no contact, OP can request mutual friends not invite them to the same functions as Lily. If asked why, OP and Mila can just say she crossed a boundary and they need to cut contact for everybody’s well-being. Lily NEEDS to work on moving on, with her therapist’s guidance.