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Leveling Up the Sharing Today
🕑 Added 2021-12-16 23:38:25 +0000 UTCOur recent vulnerability in this space really got me in the heart—I value so much being in community with ya’ll. For my day job I work at a local university and one of my favorite ways to check-in when I meet with folx is to use various conversation prompts…you know me and my love for questions and allergy to strained silences ;)
So I decided to pull out a card for this group. The card was chosen at random and this is 100% voluntary to participate :)
If you are up for it—the question is:
What would I do if I did not care what people thought of me? Would my life be different?
Comments
Megan Erickson
Bahahahah I love that re legs and also def agree with kid friend parents’
Megan Erickson
Yes the mother guilt is this insidious thing isn’t it
Megan Erickson
Thanks for sharing! I’m going to practice saying “no” next year and it honestly makes me nervous.
Megan Erickson
Ooof I feel this one so much!
Elizabeth
I grew up with a parent whose love was very conditional, so I learned to hide my inner self very well. As an adult I still keep my thoughts and feelings very private, even from those I love. I have a very hard time expressing anything negative to people I care about, even when it causes problems. Hell, my mom doesn't even know about half my tattoos and I'm 46 lol. I'd be more open about how I really think and feel. I'd disagree and stand up for myself instead of shutting down and nodding my head.
Antonina (Tonya)
In general, I think I would have given myself permission not to try to please everyone, saying yes to everything no matter what. I like a lot of things about my job, but I might also choose a less demanding career in order to have a healthier work/life balance.
Sarah @afternoonaasks
Mine wouldn't be massively different now, I think because I grew up in a HK Chinese household where I was constantly told to behave in a certain way, because "what would other people think" - I really fought this and think I've largely succeeded. I figured as well if people don't dislike you then maybe you're too vanilla? And that's not what I wanted to be in my life haha! HOWEVER, I do as a parent still struggle with the things I should be doing as a "good mother" and I'm not sure that's so easy to overcome.
Lauren Cohen
I try really hard not to let what other people might think affect the way I live my life, but the place I struggle most is around my kids' friends' parents. If it's going to affect how people see them it raises the stakes and I have a hard time just being myself. Also I would definitely never shave my legs again.
Madge Doty
🤔 no, my life wouldn’t be different. I’m the black sheep of our family, the weird one who moved to California 30+ years ago, cut most familial ties to save my sanity, and created a good life for myself, my husband, and our cats…who never ever ever tell me I’m weird. ❤️ to all this holiday season!
LauraPat H
Well put Jodi! Me too!
Jodi Guira
I don't think my life would super change...but I would hope, like Laura, my self negative would be a lot less. It saddens me how much negative talk effects everyone so much. We are all AMAZING and I hope one day we will all believe that from the tip of our heads to the bottom of our soles (souls)! I love all of you and so grateful to have find this place!
LauraPat H
This is a great question. I actually paused "100 Days My Prince" to check out this post 😏 I know my tendency to ruminate over past mistakes/embarassments causes me at the very least irritation with my own self. If I didn't care about what people thought of me at those past moments, I could've saved myself a LOT of angst and emotional energy. Giving myself a pat on the back for all the good or clever stuff I HAVE done or said is hard and even as a 63 year old I still sometimes have to talk myself out of entering the negative thinking maze.
